There was a time
I use to blog daily! Unbelievable, but true. I used to churn up new and
exciting (or I would like to believe) posts day in and day out, just for my
satisfaction. Now it's a miracle that I get one out a MONTH! Hmphh... the Perils of climbing the corporate ladder. Sigh!
Today, I write
about a topic I have addressed, back in October 2013, (Click here for earlier post), about
how people come and go and come right back in our lives. I was upbeat, excited
and even a little Utopian when I wrote that one. Now I am in a pensive
and reflective mood, thanks to the changes brought about by time, place
and people.
I truthfully
believe that everyone we meet, we meet for a reason. We have encountered any
given person for a reason. We have friends who remain, friends who come in our
lives but soon depart and friends who just pass by our daily lives. Even if it is just running into
a fellow barista at Starbuck/Caribou/Tea Junction of the world, there is a
reason sprinkled in our path that we may not even see at this moment in time.
There’s a quote
that goes something like, “People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a
lifetime,” which really resonates with
my life. Maybe the simple reason of the daily encounter with the watchman is the daily smile (or
frown, depending on individual moods) that both share and eventually that
starts the morning off right (or Wrong). Each action has a direct impact.
Believe me!
Instead
of dwelling on the pain of saying goodbye to a friendship, look at it as a
chapter that was filled with many memories and now lessons that will forever
live with you. Sometimes we are welcomed by friendships that aren't meant to
last forever, but are meant to teach us and help us grow on our beautiful
journeys. Easier said than done, I know. We tend to hold on to things, with closed fists; memories, people, smell, taste
etc etc . Sometimes I
wish, there was a delete button, no I wouldn't delete the memories, not at all,
but what I would give to delete emotions and feelings that often flood through
immediately after the memories dance on top of our heads.
(For
some weird reason, this song has sprung into my head, and I feel it plays with
the same theme as this post.)
On the contrary,
sometimes we have to learn when to let go and continue on our journey. It takes
courage to stand up and realize that sometimes you need to move forward.
This doesn't mean things have to end nasty, it just means that
you are mature enough to see that these people may be holding you back in a way
that at this moment in your life is not what you want.
‘Some
people come into our lives and quickly go. Some stay for a while, leave
footprints on out hearts, and we are never, ever the same.” ~ Flavia Weedn
In last two to three
weeks, the kind of experiences I have had is simply mind boggling. Ghosts
from past, friends turning foul mouthed delusional junkies, catching up with
old friends, getting back in touch with dear old colleagues, performing Kathak
on stage again, distancing from people, I never thought I could but should have
un-friend-ed a long time back. Certainly CRAY CRAY has
been the forecast for too long now.
This morning, I saw a
rather an inspiring message that, I know feel is fitting with this topic. It
read as, “E.N.D = Entirely New Direction.” When our friendships end, it’s really
just a sign from The UNIVERSE saying we need to head down a new path or
one of the people involved need to pull up their socks.
Stop focusing on WHY,
WHAT IF… these are toxic questions that create an abundance of noise in our
lives. Instead, begin to take the risk down a new direction. With an open mind
you will surprise yourself with the outcome. I am surely surprising myself with
my new found strength.
My strength comes from
knowing that "Everything that needs to happen will happen,
when it's supposed to happen, the way it's meant to happen."
