Reason? Season? Or a Lifetime?

There was a time I use to blog daily! Unbelievable, but true. I used to churn up new and exciting (or I would like to believe) posts day in and day out, just for my satisfaction. Now it's a miracle that I get one out a MONTH! Hmphh... the Perils of climbing the corporate ladder. Sigh!

Today, I write about a topic I have addressed, back in October 2013, (Click here for earlier post), about how people come and go and come right back in our lives. I was upbeat, excited and even a little Utopian when I wrote that one. Now I am in a pensive and reflective mood, thanks to the changes brought about by time, place and people.

I truthfully believe that everyone we meet, we meet for a reason. We have encountered any given person for a reason. We have friends who remain, friends who come in our lives but soon depart and friends who just pass by our daily lives. Even if it is just running into a fellow barista at Starbuck/Caribou/Tea Junction of the world, there is a reason sprinkled in our path that we may not even see at this moment in time.

There’s a quote that goes something like, “People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime,” which really resonates with my life. Maybe the simple reason of the daily encounter with the  watchman is the daily smile (or frown, depending on individual moods) that both share and eventually that starts the morning off right (or Wrong). Each action has a direct impact. Believe me!

Instead of dwelling on the pain of saying goodbye to a friendship, look at it as a chapter that was filled with many memories and now lessons that will forever live with you. Sometimes we are welcomed by friendships that aren't meant to last forever, but are meant to teach us and help us grow on our beautiful journeys. Easier said than done, I know. We tend to hold on to things, with closed fists; memories, people, smell, taste etc etc . Sometimes I wish, there was a delete button, no I wouldn't delete the memories, not at all, but what I would give to delete emotions and feelings that often flood through immediately after the memories dance on top of our heads.

(For some weird reason, this song has sprung into my head, and I feel it plays with the same theme as this post.)

On the contrary, sometimes we have to learn when to let go and continue on our journey. It takes courage to stand up and realize that sometimes you need to move forward. This doesn't mean things have to end nasty, it just means that you are mature enough to see that these people may be holding you back in a way that at this moment in your life is not what you want.

‘Some people come into our lives and quickly go. Some stay for a while, leave footprints on out hearts, and we are never, ever the same.” ~ Flavia Weedn

In last two to three weeks, the kind of experiences I have had is simply mind boggling. Ghosts from past, friends turning foul mouthed delusional junkies, catching up with old friends, getting back in touch with dear old colleagues, performing Kathak on stage again, distancing from people, I never thought I could but should have un-friend-ed a long time back. Certainly CRAY CRAY has been the forecast for too long now.

This morning, I saw a rather an inspiring message that, I know feel is fitting with this topic. It read as, “E.N.D = Entirely New Direction.” When our friendships end, it’s really just a sign from The UNIVERSE saying we need to head down a new path or one of the people involved need to pull up their socks.

Stop focusing on WHY, WHAT IF… these are toxic questions that create an abundance of noise in our lives. Instead, begin to take the risk down a new direction. With an open mind you will surprise yourself with the outcome. I am surely surprising myself with my new found strength. 

My strength comes from knowing that "Everything that needs to happen will happen, when it's supposed to happen, the way it's meant to happen."